“No man is an island.” This saying only means one thing and this is the fact that people are meant to create relationships with each other. Oftentimes, when we have a relationship with another person, whether it’s a simple friendship or a marriage, we get so close to each other we forget that we are not the same person.
This is where the problem starts especially in marriage. When a marriage is quiet and doesn’t seem to have any problems you should probably take another look at your marriage. The problem is that one of you might have lost their identity along the way.
On the other hand, when there is too much fighting and disagreement in a marriage, this can also be a problem. Couples find it hard to stay happy in a marriage where there are just way too many conflicts. There is a blurred line to actually identify if your marriage needs counselling. But when you see that your partner is suffering in the relationship to the point of depression, this is a clear sign that you need counselling.
Your problems can also be caused by basically anything that affects your relationship. It could be tension in the family, financial stability, sickness, trouble with career growth and so on. You don’t have to limit the problems to the two of you as individuals. You must also recognise that there are other factors involved.
Once you have identified the road-blocks in your marriage, such as less sexual intimacy or lack of communication, the task is in your hands. It’s important that at least one takes the initiative to seek marriage counselling. If you cannot seem to reason with your spouse, you can still go and visit the counsellor on your own. From there you will be guided by a professional and you can start addressing the problem your marriage is currently facing.